Iyanla Vanzant

Transformation doesn’t have to be deep, dark and mysterious. If you screw up, fine – laugh at yourself, learn and move on.

Iyanla Vanzant

Until you are willing to accept total and complete responsibility for every aspect of your life, your life will keep sending you experiences designed to get your attention.

Iyanla Vanzant

Until you make peace with your difficult memories, that pain will continue to bleed into your current and future experiences.

Iyanla Vanzant

We all have little fears we have not addressed. These fears lie dormant until you are called upon by life to confront and overcome them.

Iyanla Vanzant

We all want to be liked, loved, or needed. That is fine. What is not fine is what we are willing to do to make sure we are liked, or loved or needed. When we make the needs and wants of others a priority in our lives, we devalue ourselves.

Iyanla Vanzant

We can think, speak and bring the best possible outcome into existence by focusing on where we are going, not on where we think we are.

Iyanla Vanzant

We must learn not to give up when requirements are not met or when commitments are broken. To do so is a refusal to allow mistakes to be corrected and a demonstration of an unwillingness to forgive yourself or anyone else who needs forgiveness.

Iyanla Vanzant

We place limits, restrictions and conditions on our loving and those we love. Love is simple. You simply give love for the sake of love.

Iyanla Vanzant

We really don’t know how to love each other because we haven’t really learned to love ourselves. In many instances, not all, it’s not malicious. We’ve just been conditioned to such bad behavior.

Iyanla Vanzant

We set the standard of how we want to be treated. Our relationships are reflections of the relationships we have with ourselves.

Iyanla Vanzant