Iyanla Vanzant

If you should encounter angry or unkind actions today, take a deep breath, reach deep within, and greet the lack of love with love.

Iyanla Vanzant

If you want to experience the truth of who you are, you must be willing to examine and explore your dark side.

Iyanla Vanzant

If you’re not willing to let your partner see your cellulite or now your biggest fears, then you aren’t really ready to share yourself.

Iyanla Vanzant

In all relationships, regardless of their nature, there comes that moment when you understand that there are some things you will never understand. When you are standing in that moment, just be right with it.

Iyanla Vanzant

In love, there is a total acceptance of self, and a willingness to give of self without an expectation of receiving anything in return. When you love, you are not afraid to share the truth of who you are, and you accept the truth of others without judgment.

Iyanla Vanzant

In my mind, marriage is a spiritual partnership and union in which we willingly give and receive love, create and share intimacy, and open ourselves to be available and accessible to another human being in order to heal, learn and grow.

Iyanla Vanzant

In order to be yourself, you must have inner cooperation on all levels of existence; mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual.

Iyanla Vanzant

In order to feel loved, be respected and stay connected, we humans have a tendency to lie. We lie about who we are, what we want, what we need, what we have done or will do. Perhaps ‘lie’ is too strong a word. Let me say that what we do is withhold the truth.

Iyanla Vanzant

In speaking the truth of your experience to another, it will serve you well to realize that how they choose to respond is not your responsibility.

Iyanla Vanzant

In the process of planning and having a wedding, I forgot there would actually be a marriage, a union of minds, bodies, souls, and issues that would come together as soon as the ceremony was over.

Iyanla Vanzant