Henry Cloud

Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.

Henry Cloud

Anytime you and I take our accused behaviors, emotions, and thoughts into isolation, we are cut off from the safe relationships that could help us deal with the problems.

Henry Cloud

Appropriate boundaries don’t control, attack or hurt anyone. They simply prevent your treasures from being taken at the wrong time. Saying no to adults, who are responsible for getting their own needs met, may cause some discomfort. But it doesn’t cause injury.

Henry Cloud

Because dating is a human exercise, it can be a tightrope fraught with danger. You will be dating imperfect people, and some of them are more imperfect than others. In addition, you are not perfect either, so that complicates the picture.

Henry Cloud

Being loved leads to commitment and willful decision-making – not the reverse.

Henry Cloud

Blame is a sort of comfort food for the soul. It diverts us from the effort of owning responsibility.

Henry Cloud

Christianity is not about morality. It’s about reality.

Henry Cloud

Confronting an irresponsible person is not painful to him; only consequences are.

Henry Cloud

Do not let an out-of-control person be the cue for you to change your course. Just allow him to be angry and decide for yourself what you need to do.

Henry Cloud

Encourage your child to think for himself, disagree, and talk about his feelings while accepting your authority.

Henry Cloud